Dealing with Sibling Jealousy
If you already have older children, you will probably have considered this: How do you avoid or minimize jealousy because so much time and attention is focused on the new baby? Think about it: Your oldest has so far been the focus of your attention. One day, it all changes and it is now lavished upon another. So it is only natural for your older child to feel left out or jealous.
Be sensitive to your older child’s feelings
The best thing you can do is to get your older child involved in every way you can. Share how the baby is developing. Let the big sister or brother feel the baby kicking in your tummy. Let your older child visit you in the hospital. Let your child take on the nurturing supportive role of an older brother or sister and share some small responsibilities.
No doubt, you will have to divide your time now. The newborn needs all your attention but that does not mean you leave out the older one out. Your older child might be too young to understand. When the older child runs to you with an inquisitive question or to show you something he/she is proud of, it is very important you take some time to attend to it.
How others can help
You may also suggest to friends and relatives who come to visit you that they bring something for the baby’s big sister or big brother rather than for the baby. This will turn attention back to the older child. While you are breast-feeding or tending to your newborn’s needs your husband can take turns to play with your older kid.
Reassure your older child
Let your older child express his/her feelings; listen and show your child you understand. Make your older child feel important as well. There are times when your older child might ask you whom do you love most. Your child just wants to be reassured he/she is loved completely. Tell your child the reasons why you love them both. Mention all the good points of your older child.
Once you manage to reestablish your older child’s confidence in your love for him/her, positive feelings between the siblings can develop and thrive.
Myths about breastfeeding
Myth: You can’t breastfeed if you have small breasts.
Not True. Breast size has nothing to do with the amount of milk produced.
Myth: It is normal to feel pain when breastfeeding.
Not True. Though there might be some tenderness for a few days, it usually hurts if the baby is not latched properly on the breast.
Myth: Most women do not produce enough milk.
Not True. The vast majority of women produce more than enough milk. If a baby does not get enough milk again it is because the baby is poorly latched onto the breast.
Myth: You must wash your nipples each time you breastfeed.
Not True. Breastfeeding protects the baby against infection. In fact washing nipples each time before breastfeeding washes away protective oils from the nipples.
Myth: You can’t get pregnant while breastfeeding.
Not True. While breastfeeding prevents ovulation in some women, it is not a reliable form of birth control.